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**This post has some stuff to help you get your life back together as well as some stuff about me at the very bottom! Enjoy!
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably made some mistakes in your life- nobody’s perfect. You might be a student who just flunked a math test because “due tomorrow, means do tomorrow,” followed by a heavy thump on the snooze button of your alarm clock; maybe you’re your a person who feels pulled toward another job that you hadn’t really thought about before; maybe you just got out of a long lasting relationship that wasn’t healthy for both people or maybe you’ve taken a long break from the gym and you need to get your healthy back on track- whatever is happening in your life, take a step back and FIGURE THINGS OUT.
This whole year so far has been exploration and doing, with some planning, but that’s where my mistake has been so far…. barely any planning, but at some point I decided to fix that! I made a plan and yes, it’s taking some time to recompose myself and accept that not everything is going to work out, but that’s okay because right now I’m happy to be doing what I’m doing.
Here are a few things to do when taking your life back:
- Make a list of what you like and what you don’t.
You need to have a few things you want to do, but if you don’t like what you’re doing or even get used to the fact you’re doing it, then you’ve already given up. Don’t do that to yourself, but remember that not all of these changes are going to be fun, but the benefit that you get from them will be.
- Write down things that you’ve always wanted to try
Maybe you’ve wanted to try an assortment of cultural food, maybe you’ve wanted to finish your college or university degree, maybe you’ve always wanted to perform in a stand up comedy show- write these things down and remember that these are a few of the goals that you WILL be completing.
- Don’t be afraid, you can do this!
Fear will always be there. If you’re talking to a person who you’ve had a crush on for a while now, OF COURSE it’s going to be there, but you want this to work out right? WELL, it’s not going to be done if nobody knows what you want. If you want to do well in your new profession or whatever you CHOOSE to do, then you need to be able to say, “Yes, I’m doing this”
- You’re not doing this for others, but for yourself
People will always have an opinion about what you’re doing but good or bad, you have to show them that you can do this! When someone asked me what my biggest fear was, I didn’t know what to tell them. It took me a while to figure out, but I realized that the most endearing but intimidating words in the English language are not “I love you” or “I hate you,” but “Because I can.” If you’re scared of what others will say or do to you, then you’re only giving them the power to define your value and to do that would verify the fact that you just wasted your time. Don’t let anyone do that to you, you are not a doormat. Believe that. Know that.
- Know your limits
You might be reorganizing your life, collecting yourself or figuring out who you are and that’s perfectly fine, but you need to know when too much is overwhelming. Take it a step at a time and don’t stress yourself out. You might need a little more training or experience, but you’ll get there. A few weeks ago, I lost a student election by a very close margin with the majority of my team, but that means I was going to sit around and be sad. Never say that your life is over, it’s not. Keep moving, take breaks but always keep moving.
- None of this will be easy
Some people would say to never be apologetic, I can understand that, but sometimes you need to be with yourself or someone you might have affected during this transition. Your actions do affect others, but hopefully, all mistakes will serve as a lesson. Nobody ever said life would be easy, some a little more privileged than others, but never easy.
P.S. Sorry if this post is somewhat unstructured, I plan on making my blog more structured in future blogs, but I’ve just been exploring everything lately! If you have any questions or want to talk to me, hit me up at firstname.lastname@example.org or check out my contact sheet!
If you want to know what I’ll be doing in the next few months and hopefully have finished before the year’s out, here they are:
- become fluent in French
- try different foods with different people in new places
- learn to write in different genres and platforms
- check out cool, local events
- learn to play a string instrument (violin, guitar)
- run a marathon
Thank you for reading,